10 Years

Today marks a decade of marriage to Jon — and I have been in my feelings about it.

Over the past few weeks, I've been doing a lot of reflecting. Marriage has touched every aspect of my life, and I truly believe that's exactly how God designed it. Which is why being equally yoked isn't just a suggestion — it's everything.

As I sit here writing, there are moments where it feels like I've been married 10 years, and other moments where it genuinely doesn't feel that long. Time is wild like that.

What I know for sure is this: our love has gotten sweeter over time. I love being married to my husband.

But that sweetness? It came through HEART WORK.

And I mean real heart work. The tough conversations. The tear-filled conversations. The let me get some air before I respond conversations. Those moments didn't break us — they pushed me to grow, repent, and adjust. Marriage is a mirror. It will show you the depths of who you actually are versus who you think you are — or who you've been presenting to the world.

As I kick off my marriage series, I want to be upfront about something: I'm not coming to share a highlight reel. Yes, I will absolutely talk about how incredibly well Jon loves me — because he does. But the focus of this series is the struggle. The moments that pushed me to truly want to show up and do my part in building a healthy, thriving, God-centered marriage.

It has been a journey. A real one. I had to shed views, fairytales, and expectations that were doing more harm than good — and most of them, I didn't even realize I was carrying.

There's a lot to unpack. I'm squeezing it into 10 lessons for 10 years, and my prayer is simple: that through my transparency and vulnerability, you'll find at least one gem that draws you and your spouse closer to Christ and closer to each other.

In my next post, I'll also share a little about my marriage starting point — because the context matters, and I want you to see the full picture of what God has done.

For now, I'm just grateful. Grateful to be doing life with my favorite person.

I'd choose him over and over again.

"What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." — Matthew 19:6

Chat soon,

Chelsi